The Difference

Back in the day-  I hope I'm living with my husband and kids in a massive house- completed with a pool- that was bought when we were just married. Of course there will be some expensive looking landscaping that everyone will drive a little slower to see. I want it to be the most grand house one will ever walk into, that wasn't owned by a celebrity. Obviously my husband will be paying for that. He will have to buy the biggest and best house for me because he has to show me he loves me somehow. I mean what is he supposed to do? Buy me chocolates? That isn't even acceptable on Valentines day. On Valentines day I expect pink elephants that are the size of horses to come out of my 5 door garage. There should be confetti and a couple of hundred flowers. And that would be the minimum. I would laugh and cry and kiss him thank you. Thats how a Valentines should go. I want my husband to be THE family guy. He should be what other fathers and husbands aspire to be. He should read to my kids every night a book that starts with "once upon a time" and concludes with "the end". He should answer all of my questions and never have a temper. I want him to be able to fix whatever is wrong with the house, cars, and lawn because that is what men do. And if he was to ever break my heart, he would need to write me a well thought out letter filled with rhetoric on how he wouldn't be able to live with out me. We would grow old but his money will still be coming in like when he was young. He would get our children into Yale and die knowing he did the very best for his family. I would live a few extra years all alone in that big house and that would be the end of it. 

Today-  I hope my husband and I are living in a nice cozy home- that we both saved for- with our children. We could have bought a bigger home but chose to save a lot of our money for traveling and college funds. I would like him to make dinner every other day and on the days he doesn't cook I would. Every little romantic thing he does I will love and appreciate. I don't expect anything fancy and expensive because it's not how much it costs but what it's worth to me. We would do anything for our kids and love them unconditionally. We would both kiss them goodnight and tell them a bedtime story. Then after me and my husband will grab a glass of wine and watch the Jimmy Fallon show. We would be talking and laughing till morning comes; when it does, we will be awaken by our children jumping on our bed. I only want two things from him: to be a believer of Jesus and to be respectful to everyone. Everything else I'm willing to accept. I'm willing to understand his flaws just as I'm sure he will understand and accept mine. If something goes wrong with any household appliance we will work together to fix it. If my car has a flat tire, I want him to teach me how to change it. We will work together because that is what kind of marriage we will have. I don't want some artificial life were the husband is out at "work" everyday and I'm at home taking care of the children and cleaning. I don't want to be a trophy wife that he shows off to his friends. No. His friends will be my friends and we will BOTH come home from work tired. No matter what happens we'll both know how much we love each other because we spent our entire lives telling and showing it.